Knotty play is an artform and psychological test of D/s interaction.

Entwined

One form of kink I’ve been researching lately is Shibari. The ancient Japanese art of using lengths of rope to bind a person with intricate knot-work and /or for restraining purposes. Shibari literally means ‘to tie.’ It originated from the Japanese police and Samurai in the period 1400-1700. Initially a form of restraint for prisoners, it was derived from the martial art Hojo-jutsu. In the 1800s, Kinbaku, an erotic form of the practice became prevalent*. Shibari is now commonly used to describe the practice of BD/SM rope play.

What interests and excites me about the practice is that it:

A. Looks fricking awesome. The patterns that can be achieved are stunning. They are works of art in themselves on a human ‘canvas’ using rope as the ‘media’. Shibari is highly ornamental, as well as functional.

B. It involves a strong element of trust. Both from the person tying the knots, and the individual being tied. The person tying the rope  (known as the ‘rigger’) is putting their faith in their bound partner to tell them how they are feeling during the process. The person who is ‘laced up’ is trusting the Shibari practitioner. The latter needs to find out if any of the ties are uncomfortable, the rope chafes or if the position is putting too much strain on muscles.

C. The pleasure derived both from seeing the handiwork and the feeling of the rope lying on the flesh. Not only this, the psychological element of submission. The person who is bound submits themselves physically and psychologically to the Rope Master or Mistress.

Practicali-ties

The ropes are strategically placed and knotted to stimulate pressure points. A Shiatsu massage effect can be attained with some bindings. Moreover, the use of additional play equipment (floggers, paddles, vibrators among others) can increase the sensation felt by the person being bound.


Ropes that are used are commonly 5-10 metres in length, red /black/ or natural in colour. Composition of the rope is important as the fibres need to be supple and flexible enough to allow manipulation and formation of neat knots. The rope also needs to be strong; its purpose is, in addition to looking attractive, to restrain. It needs durability and to not wear excessively under strain.

Another consideration is the comfort of the individuals tying the knots and being bound. Rope-burns are not at all pleasant. Neither are they attractive. No one wants to go to the office on a Monday morning with tell-tale red marks on their limbs. That would make for awkward water cooler conversation. Elastic should not be contained in the fibres as it can make knots too tight, and trickier to undo.

Materials that tend to be used are cotton, hemp and silk. Cotton is relatively inexpensive, whilst silk is more luxurious. Both are exceedingly strong.Having the appropriate material ensures the rope-work will appear neat and well-placed (this will also depend on the skill of the Shibari practitioner).

Creating the ‘illusion’ means practice

It takes hours of patience and skill to learn to manipulate the ropes. An important feature of bindings is that they’re readily released. Meaning, as the quick-release mechanism on a bicycle saddle makes it easy to adjust the saddle’s height, so the binding of the rope ensures it is readily unbinding. If a restraint position is causing too much discomfort, or the psychological effect on the binder/ recipient is too extreme, the ropes need to be unwound quickly. This means there are not actual ‘knots’ in the rope, but the illusion of knots in some cases.

The person being bound needs to have patience too, as it can be a time- consuming art-form. The aesthetic makes it entirely worth the wait. They say a pictures speaks a thousand words. Shibari makes you feel those words…

How does Shibari make you feel? Please comment, and see if we can reach 1000 words!

* this information was accessed from Kinkly.com on 18th June 2017

 

The current contents of my ‘bunny burrows’ toy collection

I don’t have an itemised list of everything sex toy related I currently possess. Whilst browsing websites of some of my peers I came across their sex toy collections. Apart from ‘wow, they have an awesome stash of pleasure-giving goodies!’ it made me think I need to publish what I own, so that any companies I may want to  approach in the future know what I’m into sex-toy wise. Moreover, I hope it will give some insights as to my ‘kinks.’

Here it is, a fully-compiled, neatly categorised list of everything I currently own:

Dildos
Battery powered vibrators
USB rechargeable vibrators/ suction toys
Anal toys
Bondage/ Discipline and sensation toys
  • Bondage Boutique Intermediate red suede flogger.
  • Silicone butterfly riding crop (Bondage Boutique).
  • Soft velvet hogtie set (Bondage Boutique).
  • Doc Johnson bondage candles.
  • DOMINIX Deluxe wooden dildo with leather flogger.
  • Fetish Fantasy gold pinwheel.
  • Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Spreader Restraint kit.
  • Fifty Shades of Grey The Pinch Adjustable nipple clamps.
  • House of Passion nipple clamps with chain.
  • Icicles No 38 glass dildo with leather flogger.
  • Lovehoney Beginner’s silicone tipped adjustable clitoral clip.
  • Feather Tickler (Lovehoney).
  • Lovehoney Tease Me silver handcuffs.
  • Tease Me nipple rings with heart charms (Lovehoney).
  • Spartacus beaded tweezer clitoral clamp.
  • Tease by Lovehoney spanking paddle (purple).
  • Tease by Lovehoney riding crop (purple).
  • Beginners flogger, purple, (Tease by Lovehoney).
  • Tracey Cox Supersex Bondage tape.
Other toys

This list will be updated as often as is necessary. No affiliate links are used in this post.

DOMINIX Deluxe Wooden Dildo with Leather Flogger

It’s a Flog-ildo!

I was lucky enough to be selected to road-test this handsome ebony delight. I’ve tried many dildos but never a wooden one, so this was a first for me. I have several floggers, and this one most resembles the Icicles No 38 Glass Dildo with Leather Flogger. Anyone who owns that particular flogger will know that it has a hefty ‘handle.’ After two to three dozen swings of that bad boy you will know you have done so! By comparison, the Dominix Deluxe wooden dildo with leather flogger is a helluva lot lighter.

Handle with delight
In terms of packaging, the Dominix Deluxe arrived in a simple sealed plastic wrapper. But this toy really does not need anything more extravagant, as the quality it exudes speaks for itself. The wooden dildo/ handle is smooth and the black lacquer has a beautiful glossy finish. The circumference of the bulbous end measures 4.5 inches, the total length of the handle is 8 inches, of which 6 inches are insertable.

As a flogger, the leather fronds are thick enough and plentiful (there are 24) to deliver gentle caresses to your sub, as you prepare them for what is to come. Some lighter swings pepper the intended target with sweetly sharp little stings. A harder strike will give a resounding thwack, and accompanied gasps as the tails mete out a skin-heating, rain of pelts. In each case, the sensations were sublime.

When used as a dildo, the wooden handle was coated with water-based lubricant, and it glided into me very easily and smoothly. The stimulation from the bulbs is amazing; with the right angling it could hit my internal pleasure spots leading to a very satisfying blended orgasm when used in conjunction with a clitoral toy. To clean the dildo, I used an antibacterial wipe, whilst the leather tails were wiped with a baby wipe.

Final Thoughts

This flogger really does multitask, and in such a pleasing way- both ends promise and deliver a lot of sensory delight, and it looks classy yet understated, with a slight masculine edge. A fabulous addition to my toy collection!

This black beauty delivers thrills at both head and tails!

My ratings: 

Usability = 10/10

Orgasms = 9/10

Appearance  = 9.5/10

Kink- factor = 9.5/10

Overall = 9.5/10 

This ‘flog-ildo’ is available from Lovehoney for £24.99.

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Waxing lyrical about candle play


Recently I persuaded Mr Bunny to let me get the bondage candles out for an evening of sensory playtime. The five senses are an all-important part of foreplay and sexual stimulation. Touch can be gentle like a stroke or caress. Alternatively, it can be sharp, causing mild-moderate pain. There are various ways to stimulate a partner to illicit a pain response. Pinwheels, molten wax, impact play and electro-stimulation can be experimented with, according to what interests you both. In this session, I desired the anticipatory stings of heated wax.

Lighting the wick of desire

I put on sexy lacy pants and a lacy halter-neck bra, then sauntered down to our lounge, candles in hand. After arranging a nice padded cushion on the floor and lying a towel over it, I proceeded to lie on my front. He removed my bra to save it from the wax and lit the candle. Carefully, he held it a safe distance from my skin, allowing drips of molten wax to gravitate onto my back. Another target was the landing strip formed by my shoulder blades. Pretty purple sploshes solidified on their resting places. I hissed in anticipatory surprise as the heated wax blobs rained down on me in quick succession. 1…2…3…4…5- I lost count as I breathed through the sensory explosion I was experiencing.

The painter becomes painted

Then we swapped places and it was my turn to use him as my own canvas. He exclaimed in surprise as he felt the pitter patter of molten wax, and inwardly I smiled as my inner Domme took her pleasure from his squirms. I found I enjoyed being in control as much, if not more than being the recipient. The sadistic side of me liked peeling the solid wax off of his bare chest, and I look forward to repeating this experience soon!

Get loved-up with your Valentine this February 14th!

Create some romance this Valentine’s Day with the following ideas…

  • Turn your bedroom into a sexy boudoir, using Lovehoney Oh! Romantic Red Rose Petals. Leave a trail, scattered up the stairs and hallway into your boudoir. Sprinkle all over the bed, and some on you whilst wearing some seductive underwear / lingerie. The petals can be reused and could also be sprayed to heighten the romance, with the right scent.

 

  • Try a couple’s board game, like Monogamy to reignite the spark and create an afterburner effect for the days and months to come. Just dedicate some time to getting yourself prepared with the necessary props, including some ice, massage oil, lubricant, drinks and nibbles, and maybe some blindfolds and restraints if you’re up for trying the kinkier cards.

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  • Use a remote controlled toy such a Vibrating Love Egg. There are a range of options out there from inexpensive battery-operated wired eggs that can be used in the comfort of your home, to more sophisticated rechargeable wireless toys that are discrete enough to use whilst out and about. Sure to add thrills on a dinner or movie date with your significant other!

 

  • Blindfold your partner before teasing them. When they’ve had enough teasing, let the fun continue to another level! Try teasing with
    • sensory items such as ice,
    • sensual satin / silk materials, or a leather flogger
    • stimulatory toys like a pinwheel or e-stim electrodes.

 

  • Indulge each other with a sensual massage, using either scented oil, or a scented massage candle (the wax is perfectly safe on skin). Try some hot massage rocks or a hand held massager. Wands can provide vibrations to work on sore tired muscles. Relaxing together can be soothing and release feel-good endorphins as well as oxytocin.

 

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  • Re-enact a steamy scene from your favourite sexy movie. Secretary starring Maggie Gyllenhaal is one of my faves! Dress up to look and feel the part!

 

  • Eat each other’s underwear off! Candy bras, g-strings and men’s pouches are a fun way to amuse and arouse at the same time. Laughing together during intimacy helps ease any awkwardness whether you’re a new couple or an established couple who are rekindling the spark.

 

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Kinky Fuckery

I just love leather, and the scent of it is like a pheromone to me.

The Dominix Deluxe Open Breasted Body Harness is a piece of bondage finery that is oh so versatile in its wear-ability. I can wear it to be a Domme goddess, with some alluring lingerie underneath, and brandishing a flogger or crop.

Harness 3

If I wish to be more submissive, I can wear it on its own, to exude my inner sex slave. There are multiple strategically placed O-rings. In the event that my other half decides I need to be properly strapped down or up, against a door-frame perhaps, I can be trussed whatever way is deemed appropriate.

When I’m suitably restrained, the fun can begin; my OH has used the Fetish Fantasy Stainless Steel Wartenberg pinwheel on me. He wasn’t bothered by me using it on him as he found it too tickly. When he traced it over my breasts and around my nipples I felt tingles of delight radiating out from those mounds, making my nipples peak in response.

Harness 2

To tease me further he trawled it over my back and thighs as well as over my butt cheeks. While there was not an awful lot of bite out of the little teeth on this wheel, it did tickle my fancy. In doing so, it stimulated my receptors to awaken and cry out for more sensory play. The thud of the Bondage Boutique intermediate suede flogger on my thighs and butt cheeks roused my reward pathway into full chorus. My skin prickled as the fronds caressed it before whipping it with a thwack. Becoming more alive at this stage it was time to make the delivery more resolute. This time with the Bondage Boutique Silicone Butterfly crop. The dainty butterfly danced through the air as it dealt peppery stings on my rear end. A hissing slap sung out to me, as my delighted dopamine centre glowed with satisfaction.

Nipple rings

 

My other half could see my hardened nipples seeking a sweet sting of their own, so they were crowned with the Lovehoney Tease Me Nipple Rings with Heart Charms. A tug on these silver rings sent zinging pleasure bolts down to my lady parts, leaving me slick with desire. The gasp that escaped my mouth left no question of what was needed, and I became a fuck toy for him to exert his mastery over…

 

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