#SoSS Share our Shit Saturday; Luv Bunny’s Room 101

Share our Shit Saturday, 18 November 2017

I’ve titled this post my ‘Room 101,’ because a couple of the posts I’m going to talk about in this week’s #SoSS round-up relate to  things I’d happily banish to the BBC comedy show ‘bin.’

Firstly, Seasonal Affective disorder and depression. Miss Jezebella expresses how draining this time of year can be for her personally. I identify with her feelings. A lot of people who read her post will probably also recognise the tell-tale symptoms. I see the apathy she talks about in my colleagues. The yawns from fed up and tired preschool workers. My own trudging about town on errands etc. I’d happily hibernate from now until March. Except I cannot do this. None of us can. So I’m trying to take pleasure in the simplest of things everyday. That’s all any of us can do whilst there is so much bleakness around. I know winter won’t last forever, so I will just sigh and say come March, it will be consigned to Room 101 again!

Secondly, as we approach Christmas, we’ll be writing our Christmas card lists and buying gifts for those we care about and whom return the sentiments. As Candysnatch discusses in her post Detoxing your Friend Circle, I think this time of year actually does us a favour. If we find ourselves questioning ‘should I write a card for this person?’ then perhaps the reason for that is because said friend has become more of a ‘frenemy’ than a true friend.

Bridget Jones referred to some of these people as jellyfishes. They simply cannot seem to deliver a compliment without making some kind of ‘stinging’ remark. As I’ve gone along in my life, I’ve been quite selective with those I befriend. I’d rather have a few good friends, than dozens of acquaintances. I do not sugar-coat stuff. I call people up on their shit. But at least my friends know where they stand with me. So again, if you’re pondering on whether someone is really your friend, think about how they make you feel. If you feel drained after spending time with them, perhaps they aren’t really your friend after all. And you can do yourself the favour of cutting them loose and sending them to Room 101!

The final thing I will send to Room 101 this week is realistic dildos that aren’t actually that realistic. I’d much rather try a dildo that I find different and interesting. One such dildo is a part human/ part robot silicone cyborg cock, complete with a plated and riveted design. The textures look pretty awesome, and it would sure make for some interesting Terminator-esque role play. ‘I’ll be back’ will definitely be a metaphorical catchphrase that springs to mind!

 

Thanks for reading, and don’t forget to Share Our Shit next Saturday xx

 

 

Are sex toy reviewers and their blogs becoming redundant?

Kinkly recently published their 100 top sex blogging superheroes of 2017. In that mammoth task, they also ranked over 300 blogs in order of the criteria below, (as well as their own in-house guidelines). But the question is, if there are 300-plus bloggers out there reviewing toys, does this make them redundant?

Kinkly ranking criteria

  • Twitter Followers.
  • Facebook Likes
  • Alexa rank. “Alexa is a California-based subsidiary company of Amazon.com. They provide commercial web traffic data gathered via various toolbars and web browser extensions. Their ‘Alexa Rank’ is a metric that ranks websites in order of popularity. In their terms, they class it as ‘how [well] a website is doing’ over the last 3 months.” (Quoted from https://winningwp.com/alexa-traffic-rank/This is a fairly inaccurate ratings system though!
  • Domain links.
  • Moz rank. This “quantifies link popularity and is Moz’s version of Google’s classic PageRank algorithm. Pages earn MozRank based on the other pages on the web that link to them and the MozRank of those linking pages. The higher the MozRank of the linking pages, the higher the MozRank of the page receiving those links.” (Quoted from https://moz.com/learn/seo/mozrank/).
Does Abundance mean Redundance?

As the above metrics imply, to rank highly in the scale of bloggers, a blog needs to interact and link with its peers. It cannot stand alone as an island. This in itself could lend to the argument that actually, sex toy reviewers and their blogs are not redundant. Each reviewer will have their own particular likes and needs from their sex toys. A lot of people with vaginas for example, cannot orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. They require external stimulation too. Some reviewers like anal play. Others are ‘meh.’ People with penises may like male masturbators and strokers. They may like cock rings / cock and testicle rings. By reading other reviewers’ blogs, sex toy reviewers can pinpoint the toys that are more likely to work for them.

Then there are the reviews themselves. Yes, it may seem quite repetitive reading six reviews about the same toy. But if you look closely, you may see that Reviewer A talks more about the toy’s functions. Reviewer B, on the other hand, may describe how the toy actually feels. Some reviewers go into great amounts of detail. Others merely glide over the ‘semantics,’ and focus on the ‘yes this toy gives amazing orgasms every time!’ or  ‘this toy is alright, but it doesn’t tick all of my boxes.’ In essence, whilst more information on the same thing can be ‘overwhelming,’ and make the reviews seem redundant to some, the above points highlight the importance of multiple reviews on the same products.

Writers’ circle

Reviewers will invariably attract their own ‘circle’ of followers. These readers like the blog’s theme and style of writing. Moreover, they perhaps identify with the reviewer’s thinking in other areas including sexuality and  life experiences/ expectations. Followers of a blog will likely read a new review, even if it is not something they would necessarily use themselves, as they like to see the experiences and opinions of the reviewer. If they have the time, they may look at other reviewers’ blog-postings on the same products.

So next time you come across a new blogger, it may be tempting to think, ‘oh, it’s another one of those sites that waffles on about how great a toy is, but in reality is it that fabulous?’ The cynics among you may wonder if it’s all just a ploy to get affiliate referrals. But try and embrace the new blog – give it a read. Decide for yourself if it’s worth returning to. If you feel a blog has too many reviews or not enough other content (feel free to share any other gripes you may have), then please leave a comment on one of the posts. Us bloggers write because we wish to share our thoughts and experiences with you. But we need interaction from our readers / followers too! Rather than seeing a blog as a monologue, try to see it as a conversation.

Thanks for reading!

 

#SoSS Share our Shit Saturday

Share our Shit Saturday, 4th November 2017

I want to try to carry on doing this weekly meme, as a show of solidarity for my blogging peers worldwide. We are being censored too much. But we all have important ‘snippets’ to share. Whether it’s a review, a health matter, something psychological / ethical / other, or about a kink / fetish; we all have a ‘voice.’ Let it be read freely by those who want to enlighten themselves.

Without much further ado, here is my round-up:

Kink / Fetish:

Aurora Glora talks about the love of dolls / manequins/ statues and variations of the theme in her post about Agalmatophilia – the love of statues. There are various sub-types including female masking, sexualisation of ‘dolls’ and Pygmalionism. I won’t attempt to explain any of it here, as Aurora does it so well herself. Suffice to say, I learnt something new from reading this post. Having a doll isn’t just about curing isolation. It can be a form of self-protection; by interacting with a doll, a person can feel secure in the knowledge that the doll is always ‘on their side.’

Feminine Health

For too long symptoms of Endometriosis have been passed off as just regular menstruation. Often (without being sexist or generalising here), it is male medical practitioners who are telling the patients that they are ‘overplaying’ their symptoms. To them it’s merely cramping. But as @RomanticIsa points out, what do these doctors know about female physiology and perception of pain / discomfort? These male doctors do not have wombs or fallopian tubes. Doctors need to listen to their patients, ask questions and get a second opinion. No single person is an oracle of health and medicine! Not even in a specialised area such as Gynaecological Health.

 

Anal Sex- what’s so great about it?

This post is written by Taryn at Ace in the Hole, and it kind of resonated with me. I haven’t had penis-in-ass anal sex, but I do use butt plugs and anal beads, which I enjoy. I’m just not sure whether anal is the ‘holy grail of sex’ that is is purported to be. I mean there are a whole load of other variations of sex, and they are fantastic. So if anal isn’t down your (back) alley, then fair dos!

 

So, this again is a limited round-up, but it will have to do! This bunny has other ‘warrens’ to be in! Don’t forget to come back next week for another round up in Share our Shit Saturday. xx

#SoSS Share our Shit Saturday; Sharing on the Blogging Trampoline

#SoSS Share our Shit Saturday  – Sharing on the Blogging Trampoline

This is a new meme that has been started by Girl on the Net, to stand up for sex bloggers worldwide. As a community, bloggers provide useful feedback on adult products. They also give advice on sexual health, gender equality and the importance of enlightenment in a manner of all things sexual. We bounce ideas and advice around, hence the ‘sharing on the blogging trampoline’ title for this post.

Now we are being censored by social media platforms. Moreover, Patreon and PayPal among others are turning their backs on bloggers. The very ones who help provide them with an income and web traffic! I may not be explaining this very eloquently at all; GOTN does it far better. Suffice to say, I am joining in because blogging is something that in itself is not always appreciated.

It is often seen as a ‘hobby.’ For some this is true, but for others (Cara Sutra is an example) it is a way of financially supporting  themselves and their families. As a new-ish blogger, I am learning so much, but I can only spend limited time searching through some of the blogs I like to read. I am attempting to write my own content too, and give informed reviews on products. I’d struggle with using more than one social media platform, so I have stuck with Twitter for blogging purposes.

I want to support other blogger’s hard work, and help share the recognition that what we all do is worthwhile. By silencing us or restricting how we promote our blogs / network, companies like Patreon and PayPal are ‘biting a hand that feeds them.’

Here goes for the content I’d like to share right now:

Image

Little Switch Bitch shows us a sensual image of herself in a beautiful leather harness by Zado, and highlights the vulnerability we have as sexual beings.

Article

Emmeline Peaches educates us on the kink / fetish of Eproctophilia, whereby people derive sexual pleasure from farts. The key here though, it’s from other people’s farts as opposed to their own. As a fetish, it is empowers us to embrace our bodily functions without shame of passing wind. Though it’s a fetish that may be relatively unheard of in Western cultures, it is popular in Japan. Emmeline explains why Eproctophilia appeals to those who practice it. Consider yourself enlightened, as I was.

Column

For those who are dating, Slutty Girl Problems discusses the issue of ghosting and why it is unacceptable in this day and age of communication. If you don’t want to see someone following a date / series of dates, at least have the decency to tell them so. That way they can move on, without feel ‘haunted’ by  you suddenly cutting them off.

 

This has been short and maybe not so sweet, but it’s sharing. Sharing is caring, so if you support bloggers then please Share our Shit.

 

 

 

 

Vote now for Bunny’s Wonderland in the Kinkly Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2017

Voting runs from 2nd-9th October 2017

My blog Bunny’s Wonderland only started last December, but I am so proud of what I’ve achieved in the past 10 months. When I started, I was a complete novice. I still have much to learn, and I wish to create more content that readers will engage with and find informative, as well as entertaining.

Bunny’s Wonderland currently ranks at position 216. I’d love for it to make the cut into the top 100! To be considered for the top 100 spots, a blogger needs to have at least 5 independent votes. Sorry you cannot vote for the same blogger more than once.

Kinkly say that they “connect thousands of people to sex blogs across the web every month. And we’re damned proud of it. If you’ve ever read a good sex blog – whether to learn something, to connect with someone over a shared experience, or just to get off – you know how powerful that experience can be. (And if you haven’t read a good sex blog lately, um, hello?right here.)” *

 

How to vote
  • Find your favourite blogger in the Kinkly Sex Blogger Directory. Here’s the link to vote for Bunny’s Wonderland!
  • Starting October 2nd, you can visit your favourite bloggers’ profiles and click the pink ‘Click Here to Vote’ button on their page. Voting for the same blogger more than once won’t count, but feel free to vote for multiple blogs.
  • We’ll read through every blog with at least five votes and choose our top 100 favourites based on our selection criteria. (Yes, we do read every blog that meets the minimum criteria. And, yes, that job is as awesome as it sounds.)
  • Only blogs that receive at least five votes by October 9th, 2017, will be counted but we will continue to gather votes until October 30th. **

*/ ** Quoted directly from the Kinkly site; accessed 4th October 2017.

 

Why should I vote?

Please do take a few minutes to vote, as each one counts. Blogging does take up a huge amount of time. As well as writing posts, there’s research into products and other blogging topics. Taking photos and editing them, maintaining blog security and backing up, then also updating links and blog-post content. It’s not a paid job, though affiliate links can earn us a small amount in commission. These funds are mostly put back into blogging, be it purchasing a new product, or a ‘Plug-In’ to help with the blogging process.

By voting you are saying you have confidence in your favourite bloggers, and in turn this will hopefully encourage more readers to look at their content.

Bloggers like to keep their readers informed and entertained, so they need some feedback from time to time. This is a great opportunity to provide meaningful feedback! Thanking you in advance for your vote. If you’ve already voted, then you are thanked too, you’re all awesome! xx