Waxing lyrical about candle play


Recently I persuaded Mr Bunny to let me get the bondage candles out for an evening of sensory playtime. The five senses are an all-important part of foreplay and sexual stimulation. Touch can be gentle like a stroke or caress. Alternatively, it can be sharp, causing mild-moderate pain. There are various ways to stimulate a partner to illicit a pain response. Pinwheels, molten wax, impact play and electro-stimulation can be experimented with, according to what interests you both. In this session, I desired the anticipatory stings of heated wax.

Lighting the wick of desire

I put on sexy lacy pants and a lacy halter-neck bra, then sauntered down to our lounge, candles in hand. After arranging a nice padded cushion on the floor and lying a towel over it, I proceeded to lie on my front. He removed my bra to save it from the wax and lit the candle. Carefully, he held it a safe distance from my skin, allowing drips of molten wax to gravitate onto my back. Another target was the landing strip formed by my shoulder blades. Pretty purple sploshes solidified on their resting places. I hissed in anticipatory surprise as the heated wax blobs rained down on me in quick succession. 1…2…3…4…5- I lost count as I breathed through the sensory explosion I was experiencing.

The painter becomes painted

Then we swapped places and it was my turn to use him as my own canvas. He exclaimed in surprise as he felt the pitter patter of molten wax, and inwardly I smiled as my inner Domme took her pleasure from his squirms. I found I enjoyed being in control as much, if not more than being the recipient. The sadistic side of me liked peeling the solid wax off of his bare chest, and I look forward to repeating this experience soon!

Anal Toys

A selection of anal toys that I currently have (or previously owned, in the case of the Basics Beaded Prober with Finger Loop).

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Adrien Lastic Triball Anal Beaded Butt Plug
Three balls to stimulate makes it a Triball!

I have recently tested this butt plug, so I will start by saying that it’s my first toy from the Spanish retailer. I like the bright blue colour which is different from the usual pink or otherwise girly colouring. That being said, this plug is also available in pink! It’s also a change from the black silicone that seems to be a ‘new wave’ in sex toy aesthetics. The box has a fresh and funky design, with a flip opening to reveal the toy behind its plastic window.

Being a smaller and tapered plug, it looks like it would be good for a beginner to anal play. I’m no beginner, though I’m not yet hardened enough to take on toys with more girth than about 4.5-5 inches in circumference. There are three ‘balls’ increasing in size. On insertion the first ball disappears easily, though the flexibility of the plug made it a bit tricky to slide into my anus. The second ball pops in without too much trouble. With a bit of encouragement, the final ball enters the dark side of my ‘moon.’

At this stage I was feeling like I was starting to feel more full back there, but there was room for more. Because of the thickness of the third ball, it does not slide in and out as easily as my Lovehoney BASICS anal beads. Hence there it not as much sensation during play with the Triball plug. It could do with the third ball being a bit narrower. and a couple more balls after the third one. It’s a shame I didn’t try this toy when I was a beginner to anal play, as I feel like I’ve already ‘out-grown’ it.

This plug is currently in the 2 for £15 offer at Lovehoney, along with the

Booty Buddy Silicone Butt Plug

 

Bootylicious

The Booty Buddy was procured in a two for £15 deal on butt plugs. It comes in the standard Lovehoney white and orange box, with a leaflet giving information about how to use it.

On first inspection, you’d be forgiven for thinking you’d been short-changed… Compared with other plugs, this one appears tiny, and almost looks like it’s been snapped in half!

When inserted, however, it gives a nice satisfying fill and curves to reach places other plugs may not reach. The external bar gives some nice perineal attention too.

The bulb rubs against my vaginal back wall from the other side in a pleasing way. It was really stimulating when used with a dildo in my vagina.

So, don’t be put off by its small size… it is effective with what it has!

 

Doc Johnson Crystal Jellies Ribbed Anal Starter Dildo

 

I was lucky enough to be selected to test this item in exchange for an honest review. It came packaged in a clear plastic sleeve, with the glossy insert providing the description of the toy’s intended use.

For first use, I thought it might be interesting to try it vaginally. As a dildo, it slid in nicely with a bit of lube. It made an interesting change from the rigid glass or plastic dildos I have become accustomed to. The beads gave some pleasant internal stimulation too.

For anal use, I did find it a bit tricky to insert initially, due to the flexible nature of the toy. I used a condom over it, to make cleaning easier and to prevent any lingering unpleasant odours. Even with cleaning, some toys can retain odour after anal use, particularly silicone ones. This toy may not have that issue, but it is my preference to use a condom over it.

The dildo is a nice length. Some more rigid plugs I find a bit short, but this one gave a feeling of pleasant fullness without being too overwhelming. The ribbed texture gives nice sensations as it is teased in and out of the anus.

Wibbly Wobbly Jelly!

I also used the dildo anally whilst using a glass dildo vaginally, for double penetration. The flexible nature means you can enjoy DP without any discomfort, and the flared base helps it stay in place.

Overall it’s a nice toy for novices to anal play, and some more experienced users may enjoy it also.

 

Lovehoney BASICS Beaded Anal Prober with Finger Loop
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Image published on Lovehoney’s website https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16554

I bought this as I was curious to try anal play. The prober looked fairly good for beginners, and has a loop for easy handling. I thought the beaded texture would be more stimulating than straight sides.

In use, I found it inserted easily enough with some lube, and yes, it is solid, but I didn’t find it uncomfortable as a beginner. My issue was more that it slides back out too easily, so you constantly need to hold it. This makes solo play a bit trickier if you want to stimulate other areas at the same time.

I liked it enough to want to experiment with other anal toys, and it is made of skin-safe rubber. Get yours from Lovehoney for only £9.99.

 

Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Plug Set
Tracey’s glass-y delights

 

Of the glass plugs I own so far, these are probably my favourites due to their shape and size. The two plugs come boxed in the black and pink Tracey Cox packaging, nestled in a plastic tray which keeps them safe. Also included are two black velvet drawstring bags; useful for storing glass toys, though I’ve decided to keep mine boxed to keep them better protected and to distinguish them from my other glass items.

To warm up (literally) I started with the clear beaded glass plug. I had pre-heated it in warm water, as I am not a fan of cold glass. The beads felt very pleasant gliding in my anus, liberally lubed up to help the process. The plug is quite short, so it may not be long enough to stimulate all my erogenous spots back there. Teamed with my Tracey Cox wand for clitoral stimulation, I was able to achieve a lovely undulating orgasm, enhanced by the anal play. When lubed up, this plug does get quite awkward to hold without it sliding out of your grip. It also slides out of my butt quite easily too, so you can’t really use it hands-free.

I found the black glass prober with finger loop to be the main star of this box set, as it is curved so can reach more nerve endings which would make it good for both females (stimulating the back vaginal wall) and males (for prostate). This piece of glass was also pre-warmed and is so much easier to manipulate with the finger loop. Again teamed with clitoral stimulation, I was orbited into a state of bliss with this sleek black beauty.

A great set to use if you like anal play and are keen on trying glass for hot or cold sensations. It’s not intimidating size-wise so would also be good for those who are new to anal play, or new to anal play using rigid plugs.

The set is now discontinued at Lovehoney. though they supply the Icicles N0 54 glass prober £29.99.

 

Amethyst Glass Butt Plug
Glass with a ‘Purple haze’

This is a stunning piece of glass. Do not be fooled by its apparent small size. It is a weighty butt plug, and the 4.75 inch circumference is definitely not for a newbie to anal play.

I have used a couple of small butt plugs and some basic anal beads, and the circumference on this plug definitely stretches me.

The beauty of this plug is that being glass, it is so easy to clean and does not retain any unpleasant smells unlike other materials. It comes with a nice little velvet drawstring pouch for safe storage.

The purple swirl in the glass makes it very attractive. It could even double as a juicer.

When used in conjunction with a dildo for vaginal penetration, it gives a very full feeling, and creates pressure on the back vaginal wall, for extra internal stimulation. The overall effect is a very pleasant orgasm! Get yours from Lovehoney for only £19.99, (currently in the 2 for £25 toys & lingerie offer).

 

 

 

 

 

Lubricants and Essentials

Lubricants

Doc Johnson Ultra lube
Here we go lubey-loo

This lubricant is thick and water-based, making it suitable for use with a range of toys (including silicone toys). Used copiously it is fine for anal play as well. Ultra lube washes away easily, though not so that it can’t be used in the shower! There is no unpleasant smell, nor taste. Moreover it’s suitable for vegetarians, so it can be used for oral sex without making you wretch. The 170ml bottle has a flip-top cap which makes dispensing very easy. The label is very bold, though, so no hiding what is contained within!

Available from Lovehoney for only £8.99.

Lovehoney Passion Fruit Flavoured Lubricant 100ml

Another water-based lubricant, that is safe to use with toys and with condoms too. It contains no glycerin or parabens (the latter is a preservative that has been linked with cancer, and was formerly used in a range of cosmetic agents and toiletries). It is also vegan-friendly.

The taste is pleasant, and reminds me of summer holidays when I’ve used it on my other half, akin to licking a tropical ice lolly albeit minus the ‘ice’ element. The bottle’s flip top opening is easy to use with no leaks or drips. Consistency of this lubricant is not too sticky, and it lasts a decent time before having to reapply. It’s a bit runnier than the Doc Johnson Ultra lube (which is not flavoured), but it is a good value option compared with other branded flavoured lubricants.

It can be bought from Lovehoney for £6.99, and is currently in the 3 for £10 deal on gifts and foreplay!

Nature Lovin’ Lubricants – Koala – Strawberry Margarita
The Koala tag line is apt! “For Going Down Under”

This kitsch and cute Koala-shaped bottle of Strawberry Margarita lubricant was purchased from Star Sex Toys USA, for $16.43. It is water-soluble and compatible with latex, rubber and plastic according to the label on the back. I’ve used it with condoms and it seems perfectly fine. I’m not so sure about it’s compatibility with silicone-based toys, since it contains Dimethyl Polysiloxane. Admittedly, I inadvertently used it with a couple of silicone toys before reading the ingredients. Touch wood, they seem to be intact and don’t show obvious signs of degradation, though I’ve never seen what silicone-based lubricants actually do to silicone toys. Perhaps that can be a scientific experiment for when I want to have a silicone toy clear-out (!)

In terms of the flavour, I’m not so sure I can taste strawberry margarita. It has more a generic ‘sweet artificial’ taste, which isn’t gross but it’s not really my ‘cup of tea.’

It doesn’t state that it is suitable for vegetarians. I would guess that since it contains carrageenan (an extract from red edible seaweeds, used as a thickening / gelling agent) it would be veggie-friendly. I stand corrected if I am wrong. With Wimbledon on its way, it would make an interesting combination with some aerosol cream, for a slightly different ‘mixed doubles’ game :p

 

System Jo H2O Sweet Pomegranate flavoured lubricant
All System-s Jo!

A wee 30ml bottle of this fruity lube was procured from Orgasmic when it was in the sale. Normal price is £5.99 (or £12.99 for 150ml). The lube is safe to use with condoms and sex toys (including silicone toys), and is smooth without feeling sticky. The taste is really sweet, and it actually reminds me of Calpol! For the more health / safety-conscious users, this might not be a lubricant to try as it does have glycerin (not a sugar, but can be converted to sugar inside the vagina, which may not be ideal for women prone to yeast infections). I find this not to be an issue personally, but forewarned is forearmed as they say!

Female enhancers

Tracey Cox Orgasm Gel

I got the Tracey Cox Orgasm Gel in a 3 for £10 deal, and I have also gifted a forum friend with this gel too, as I like it so much.

The gel gives a nice tingle without being overpowering, numbing, or too sticky.

I think I orgasm quicker when I use the gel, though the orgasms are not necessarily stronger.

The bottle lasts ages too, as you only need a tiny pump for good results. Get yourself some at Lovehoney for £9.99. Save 20% when you buy two orgasm enhancers from Lovehoney!

Condoms

Fifty Shades of Grey Foil Packets

As someone who has always used condoms for sexual intercourse, I’ve used a few different brands and I found these condoms to be as good, if not better than, top branded ones. The packaging is mainly aimed at followers of the erotic novels, but I found it tasteful enough.  The ‘packets’ themselves are easy to get into, and have a decent amount of lubricant coating to make them comfortable without making them too slippery to unroll.

In terms of fit, they are generously sized and tapered to allow them to cover my other half’s manhood sufficiently well without feeling insecure or too tight. They don’t have any texturing, but they are thin enough to allow decent sensations to be felt by both of us. Although they’ve been discontinued at my usual retailer, they are available elsewhere, so they can be purchased here.

Quote code LUVBUNNY20  to get 20% off orders at Kinky Desires.

 

Durex Intimate Feel (12 pack)

These condoms feel nice, they glide on well, and are thin enough to allow all sensations to be felt, whilst keeping you secure with their high quality. With the extra lubrication, they are good for extended play sessions. When I first reviewed them they were more expensive than other Durex condoms I’d used, but the price has come down to make them more competitive against other brands.

These can be bought from Lovehoney for £9.99. Save 20% when you buy two packs of Durex from Lovehoney!

 

Luwi Latex-free insertable condoms (4 pack)
Not really my ‘bag’

I was selected to road test these female sheaths. They came promptly and discreetly packaged. The sheaths come in a cardboard sleeve; a bit smaller than for a pair of tights or stockings. Luwi packets are blue/purple and are about twice the size as male condom packets. I was expecting a large-ish sheath. I was not disappointed in that respect. The sheath resembled a plastic poly-tunnel made for the vagina, with two rings connected by the ‘tunnel’ sheathing.

Instructions on the packaging informed me to squeeze and insert the smaller ring, and the larger ring would sit outside my vagina. My other half then had to aim his erection for the middle of the sheath, and slide in. The ring inside my vagina did not feel the most comfortable fit and it was quite awkward getting the positioning right the first time, meaning that it felt like my partner’s penis had ‘short sheets’ to ‘bed down’ in.

A bit of rearranging rectified the issue slightly, so we were able to continue testing. The sensations weren’t as good as with male condoms. The sheath just felt like it was swamping him, and dampening my arousal too. Luckily the ejaculate was all captured, otherwise another little bunny might have been made. It did not seem to feel any easier to use on repeated trials; I just don’t think it’s a good enough design; it’s not tapered and seems too cumbersome. It didn’t make me feel particularly confident with the appearance of it hanging out of me either.

All in all, we felt a bit underwhelmed by the Luwi, after hoping for good things.It’s a nice concept to enable women to take the barrier contraceptive option into their own hands, (and vaginas!) but it needs a lot of refining to make it a good enough rival to male condoms.

 

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Doc Johnson Pretty Ends Irridescent Medium Butt Plug

Guest Review, written by mr man (@mrrobert154)

“I was sent the Doc Johnson Pretty Ends Irridescent Medium butt plug as a gift from @LuvbunnySL82. The blue metallic colour is extremely cool.

I’d previously used a beginner jewelled butt plug that was about finger size but it didn’t stay in very well. I was working my way up to a medium plug so I thought that trying this one instead would be perfect.

When I took it out the box, I was a little surprised at the size of it. It looked huge in comparison to my other medium-sized plug, but I was eager to try it.

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Pretty sparkly!

 

At 5 inches in circumference, this plug is the largest I have tried so far. After a little bit of a warm up with my smaller plug, I thought I would give it a try. The material feels nice and is very smooth which helps it to slide into my bum nicely.

Going deeper underground

I use plenty of lube and slowly slide it in. It’s a tight fit and was slightly uncomfortable at first, but soon it started to feel great. It fills me up excellently and stays in place thanks to the perfectly sized neck and bulbous body.

Once fully inserted I could feel it hitting my prostate so I sat on the edge of my bed and began to work it against my p-spot. The feeling of my ass being full and the tip of the plug rubbing inside me was immense. It didn’t take at all long to make me orgasm.

With the plug inserted, the base feels extremely comfortable between my ass cheeks and gives you something to help pull it out once you have finished.

I would thoroughly recommend this plug to anyone who enjoys anal play. The plug itself is squashy though firm, but not too firm that it hurts. The quality is great, the colour is unusual and the size is filling. What more could I need in a butt plug?!”

The Doc Johnson Pretty Ends Iridescent Medium Butt Plug is available from Lovehoney for £11.99 or in the 2 for £15 butt plug offer.

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