Mr Bunny and I went away for a mini-break to a spa on an overnight stay this week to get some alone time. In all honesty, I did not find it as relaxing as I would have hoped for. The reasons for this were:
- Travelling 2 hours after he’d been to work to get to his mum’s to drop the ‘kids’ off.
- An hour’s drive the following morning to get to the spa venue. It was very busy there, and our treatment times were quite far apart. In hindsight I would have requested that we be able to have them simultaneously if possible.
- Lunch was scheduled for us for 2:30pm, which I found quite late. Had I realised there’d be three different sittings, I’d have requested an earlier one.
- I’d been to this venue previously, but that was over a decade ago, and I’d forgotten how loud the sound of the hydrotherapy pool was. For future reference, some headphones would have been a good idea! At least then I could have either listened to a podcast or some relaxing music.
- Emotionally, Mr Bunny and I have felt quite disconnected lately. This has manifested into our physical relationship too. With hindsight, I would have attempted to show more affection towards him, to put us in the mood for emotionally reconnecting.
- We chatted over dinner, though a lot of our conversation was dominated by the thoughts preoccupying our minds. Issues with our daughter, concerns over our new floor lifting in the dining area, and how to deal with our builder. Plus, discussing family plans for the coming weekends. None of this was really conducive to helping us relax, nor connect.
Whilst this all might sound a bit trivial in the context of what’s going on in the world around us, it mattered to me to have some quality time together. In some ways, I feel like the time we had alone together was too short. Not only that, but we have differing priorities. The result is more often than not, conflict. As I type this, the Michael Bolton song How can we be lovers? springs into my mind.
How can we be lovers if we can’t be friends?
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I wish we could have this mini-break again, to do what we’d intended to do. Reconnect. Enjoy each other’s company. Relax. At present it seems like a bit of a wasted opportunity.
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