Show Yourself Some Body Love

It is important for us to appreciate our own bodies; lumps, bumps, warts and all. Some brands have created body-positive marketing campaigns, for example, Dove. But in the adult industry it can be difficult sometimes to see that there is no ‘normal’ body; male or female. This article will hopefully encourage readers to ‘show yourself some body love.’

We all have body ‘hang-ups,’ whether we’re confident extroverts or shy introverts. Whenever we get naked in front of a partner, we think “do I look attractive enough?” These thoughts can be useful at times, in motivating us to change things we’re not quite happy with. Our diet and exercise regime frequently need checking, to improve our fitness, muscle tone and skin clarity. However, these thoughts can become more intrusive and in some cases, quite damaging.


As I’ve mentioned, the adult industry has a lot to answer for in creating stereotypes of designer bodies in a sexual context. Women have ‘neat, flesh-coloured labia that blend in with the rest of their skin tone and don’t protrude excessively. Men have well-endowed, substantially girthed penises that don’t have excessive foreskin or non-retractable foreskin (a condition known as phimosis). We are bombarded with these images in adult entertainment and media, as well as on social media platforms. This can create a great deal of anxiety in some women and men, particularly younger ones who are discovering their sexuality. Generally, they are also more likely to make comparisons with and among their peers.

In an age of image-consciousness, cosmetic ‘enhancements’ are becoming more common. In the adult industry this has led to increasing pressure for actresses to have surgery to appear more ‘attractive’ sexually. Procedures such as labiaplasty are being undergone. The consequences being that members of the general public are seeing these operations being touted as life-changing ‘super-cures.’ It seems like people are unable to accept that there is no ‘normal’ in terms of how we appear, whether sexually or otherwise. We all have unique anatomical differences, and our genitalia is no exception to this. Projects such as the Great Wall of Vagina are helping raise awareness that all of us are different; they empower us to embrace our uniqueness rather than trying to change our appearance to fit in with media-projected stereotypes. More work like this is needed to help us show ourselves ‘body love.’

Lose your ‘hang-ups’ to get close-up and personal

Next time you are about to undress in front of your partner, whether you’ve been with them a long or short time, don’t question whether your breasts will appear lopsided or asymmetrical. Forget about the curve in your penis. Never mind that your labia protrude; your partner will have more to play with! If you have a longer foreskin, fret not! Just cast your clothes and your body ‘hang-ups’ over the side of the bed, and focus on having fun together!


Get loved-up with your Valentine this February 14th!

Create some romance this Valentine’s Day with the following ideas…

  • Turn your bedroom into a sexy boudoir, using Lovehoney Oh! Romantic Red Rose Petals. Leave a trail, scattered up the stairs and hallway into your boudoir. Sprinkle all over the bed, and some on you whilst wearing some seductive underwear / lingerie. The petals can be reused and could also be sprayed to heighten the romance, with the right scent.


  • Try a couple’s board game, like Monogamy to reignite the spark and create an afterburner effect for the days and months to come. Just dedicate some time to getting yourself prepared with the necessary props, including some ice, massage oil, lubricant, drinks and nibbles, and maybe some blindfolds and restraints if you’re up for trying the kinkier cards.

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  • Use a remote controlled toy such a Vibrating Love Egg. There are a range of options out there from inexpensive battery-operated wired eggs that can be used in the comfort of your home, to more sophisticated rechargeable wireless toys that are discrete enough to use whilst out and about. Sure to add thrills on a dinner or movie date with your significant other!


  • Blindfold your partner before teasing them. When they’ve had enough teasing, let the fun continue to another level! Try teasing with
    • sensory items such as ice,
    • sensual satin / silk materials, or a leather flogger
    • stimulatory toys like a pinwheel or e-stim electrodes.


  • Indulge each other with a sensual massage, using either scented oil, or a scented massage candle (the wax is perfectly safe on skin). Try some hot massage rocks or a hand held massager. Wands can provide vibrations to work on sore tired muscles. Relaxing together can be soothing and release feel-good endorphins as well as oxytocin.





  • Re-enact a steamy scene from your favourite sexy movie. Secretary starring Maggie Gyllenhaal is one of my faves! Dress up to look and feel the part!


  • Eat each other’s underwear off! Candy bras, g-strings and men’s pouches are a fun way to amuse and arouse at the same time. Laughing together during intimacy helps ease any awkwardness whether you’re a new couple or an established couple who are rekindling the spark.


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Mouthing off… To get him off!

One  bedroom skill I’m quite proud of is giving fellatio, or in other ‘tongues,’ sucking  him off, giving a blow job, giving head, licking the lollipop, or whatever euphemism you give it!

I enjoy performing the act as well, because it gives me a sense of power and control. Looking up at him through lowered lashes, as I lavish his love-stick with my mouth and tongue. Sucking and licking, whilst my hands rub and stroke his lower shaft and balls, I savour the effort of earning his creamy ejaculate; my prize as well as his. The maintenance of eye-contact is important also, to reinforce the intimacy of this act.

It’s even better when there’s a flavoured lubricant involved; my preference is mint flavour, but I do like chocolate orange, cherry and passion fruit too. Though I’m not proficient at deep-throating a la Linda Lovelace, I do aim to take as much cock length down my throat as possible. So far I’ve not had any complaints.

Doing it ‘by the book’

I like to experiment and try new techniques. Hence I purchased the Oral Sex pocket book from Lovehoney (£5.99, and currently in the 3 for £10 offer) to expand my oral repertoire. The book, whilst not being small enough to fit into any of my pockets, is certainly good to go into any average-sized handbag. The front cover is a tonal photograph of a lady’s torso and upper thigh area, from a profile angle. It is tastefully presented, and yes it does suggest a woman giving oral pleasure to a male. But it could also suggest a woman pleasing another female through cunnilingus. It has an air of mystery about it.


Inside the front cover, the contents divide the book into two halves. Firstly, oral techniques designed to be performed on a penis. The second half is devoted to the fairer of the two genders, and her pleasure through ‘pussy licking’. Each ‘technique’ is accompanied by either a tastefully depicted cartoon style illustration, or an appropriately composed photograph (with obligatory sexy models). A double page is thus presented for each ‘oral move,’ with one page dedicated to the image, and the other page leant to the description. The written ‘instructions’ are subdivided into ‘The Basics’ and then expanded on in a full ‘Blow by Blow’ or ‘Lick by Lick’ account according to the gender they are practised on.


Lessons in licking

Each of the oral ‘manoeuvres’ is perfectly feasible. No acrobatics or props are required, apart from the odd silk scarf or bottle of champagne. In the absence of such luxury, I’m sure a decent sparkling wine would suffice without any detriment! Sample techniques to blow his mind, include

  • the Windshield Wiper (whereby the tongue is swept back and forth across the frenulum).
  • Tongue ‘n Groove.
  • The Slip ‘n Swivel.

For her, the oral repertoire contains

  • Inner Peace (whereby two fingers form a ‘peace sign’ inside the front wall of her vagina, to stimulate her G spot, whilst the tongue licks her clitoris).
  • Open Sesame.
  • Under the Hood.


This book contains a good variety of performances to enact on your partner. They’re all presented in an easy to read and interpret format. If you’re looking for some oral inspiration to wow your lover, get your copy today at Lovehoney!  In practice, I’ve only tried out a few of the moves thus far. I like surprising my partner, so I intend to keep on increasing my skill set, to give him pleasure that hopefully he’ll want to reciprocate!


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